One of the things that has stuck with me from Brené Brown’s famous TED talk is that the only thing she has found in her research that separates people who live lives full of connection and those that struggle for it, is that the people who have connection know they are worthy of it.
Worthy of love and belonging.
Dr. Brown is a pretty famous researcher, so I’m going to consider that she did due dilligence and looked at a lot of the things that we might imagine would influence whether we feel connected or not.
I don’t know for a fact, but I bet she considered:
- how people were raised
- whether people are currently in a romantic relationship
- whether people have recently moved
- whether people live alone
And probably a ton of other things.
But none of them really mattered.
So it’s simple, but likely far from easy. To live a life full of connection, all you need to do is know you are worthy of it.
What makes a person valuable?
If you’re struggling with feelings of self worth, I suggest asking this question: What makes a person valuable?
This is a philosophical question – there’s no real right or wrong answer, but what you decide will influence how you see other people, yourself, and the world.
Personally, I believe that we all have intrinsic value as human beings. That it’s something that you don’t have to earn.
That belief helps me feel worthy of love and belonging, even if I’ve had a bad day, failed at something, or had a relationship end.
It doesn’t mean I never doubt myself, but I bounce back to a place where I feel worthy pretty quickly.
What do YOU think makes a person valuable? And is that something that can be taken away, or has to be earned?
Is that working for you?